How much pain you recieve does not determin how you live,
How you live determins how much pain you recieve.

If you make poor choices, assuming that all will go well, you will experience pain.
And even if you make good choices, sometimes pain is inevitable.

The pain you do recieve isn't a punishment, its a gift.
It teaches you to be stronger, and how to learn from the actions that got you there.
It teaches you a lesson, so that you may pass that lesson on.

The experiences you have that hurt you, are given to you for a reason.
So that you may tell the younger generations about it, so that they do not make the same mistakes.